Number 9: The connection. “So, yeah, we just have this connection. We have this bond. I’ve never had this with anyone else, and I just can’t seem to shake it. Maybe we can’t even be in a relationship together, but we’ve got this connection, so we need to hang out.”
They make it sound deep and special, like what you had was rare and impossible to replace. They talk about the bond, the history, the chemistry, trying to make it feel like something that shouldn’t just end. But really, it’s just another way to keep you emotionally tied to them.
Yeah, no, you don’t.
Number 10: is a little bit ironic because they have such an impaired sense of empathy, but they’re playing on yours. “So I’m going through this crisis, and I have no one to talk to. I need you. You’re the only one who gets me.” They may be going through a crisis, but you’re not the only one who gets them. Actually, if you have been in this cycle, you didn’t get them at all the whole time. Because you didn’t know they were narcissistic to that level, so now you finally do get them, but they probably don’t know that. So this is another one: don’t fall for it.
These are the 10 most common hoovering techniques. Now, I want to hear from you. I want to know how many of these you have heard and if you’ve heard any that I didn’t mention. Let me know in the comments below. And if you like this article, please be sure to share it wherever you can. Thanks for reading!
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