Number 10: “It is all your fault that I do the things that I do.”
When a gaslighter is confronted with their actions, they may make statements similar to this. It’s a fairly normal reaction for them to put you on the spot and for you to second-guess your behavior. They accuse you of wrongdoing without accepting responsibility for their own actions. You could even apologize for things that aren’t your fault in order to reach an agreement with them. One sign that you might be getting gaslighted is if you always feel like you are messing up even though you’re trying really hard to do things right.
Your gaslighter wants you to feel like that because they want you to feel like they are doing you a favor just being with you. This sort of emotional abuse may occur in any relationship but is most prevalent in romantic relationships. The abuser uses gaslighting to maintain control over the relationship and to cause their victim to doubt their own sanity. Gaslighting’s effects may make it even more difficult for the victim to leave an abusive relationship, since they may be unaware that it is occurring.
Number 9: “You are too sensitive.”
At times, being gaslighted may be perplexing, and you may begin to wonder whether you are the one who is overreacting. The abuser will maintain that you are fabricating a situation out of thin air. This will cause you to doubt your own viewpoint and emotionally shut down.
Their goal is to make you feel foolish for even attempting to defend yourself and to make you doubt your own sense of self. They terminate the conversation and accuse you of being too emotional to deal with it. There is a good chance you are being gaslighted if you feel like you can never talk about problems in your relationship without your significant other accusing you of being oversensitive.
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