10 Phrases Narcissists Absolutely Hate to Hear


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1. “No.”

 If you want to know whether or not you’re dealing with someone who lands on the spectrum of destructive narcissism, set a boundary. Say “No,” or “No thank you,” or, “I will not, I won’t do that.” In other words, “No”, you won’t agree to or do whatever it is they’ve decided they want you to do.

 Now, how a person reacts to the word “No”, no matter how kindly or respectfully you say it will tell you everything you need to know about who they really are. The thing with narcissistic people is this: The less you’re willing to cooperate, participate, engage, enable, or allow yourself to be dragged into the ring with them, in other words, the less they’re able to manipulate, dominate, and control you, the less power they have over you, the more high voltage, disproportionate, and irrational their reaction will be.

And this is when the, “I’m such a good person” mask slips, and they show their true colors. When they can’t get their way, they don’t play nice or mature, or sane for that matter. They’ll probably come out swinging because when they realize the extent to which they’re powerless to dominate and control you or the situation, emotional violence is all they’ve got left in their toolkit.

 And in my view, when this happens, be grateful. It’s better to know who they are and what they’re capable of rather than continue to be duped by the phony, “I’m such a great person” act they’ve got going on.

 2. “I disagree.”

 Again, if you want to know for certain who and what you’re dealing with, hold a different viewpoint. Express the fact that your experience doesn’t add up with their narrative. The narcissist will quickly show you exactly who they are. And I for one like to live in reality when it comes to who’s invited into the sanctity of my life.

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