In my opinion, the three worst things that happen to you when you stay in a long-term romantic relationship with a narcissist are:
One: you will lose your sense of self within months, years, whatever. You are so focused on pleasing and appeasing the narcissist that you will totally lose touch with who you are, what you want, what you like, what you need, and so on.
Two: you will likely experience a deep and overwhelming sense of failure when involved with a narcissist. They initially lure you in by revealing their vulnerable side and casting you as their hero, getting you completely committed to the very special mission of rescuing them. But as time passes, you will realize that this truly is Mission Impossible, but they believed in you and thought you were the special one, their savior. How could you fail them like this? The narcissist will make you feel so guilty and responsible for them, eliciting this intense feeling of obligation and a profound sense of personal failure.
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Three: once you realize that the person you fell in love with was an illusion, you will feel incredibly deceived and like you wasted precious years of your life that you can’t get back.
Again, it’s important to remember that these behaviors should be considered in the context of a consistent pattern of symptoms and behavior over time and across contexts. As much as the covert narcissist is skilled at masking their narcissistic traits in the beginning of the relationship, they will soon show their true colors. Please don’t ignore the reality of your situation, and if you need help dealing with a narcissist or getting out of a narcissistic relationship, reach out to a therapist in your area.
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