10 Signs of a Husband with Narcissistic Traits

Sign 8: Doesn’t listen, but expects a lot of attention and perfect memory.

The narcissistic husband doesn’t listen but expects a lot of attention from the wife, and he also expects his wife to have a perfect memory. So, the husband may look like he’s listening, but when he responds, the responses are all about him. He only pays attention if the conversation is about something that could benefit him. Interestingly, the narcissistic husband frequently accuses the wife of not listening if he has to repeat something because the wife doesn’t remember, or because she didn’t listen to it the first time. The husband is offended, but he lacks the insight to realize that he’s not listening himself.

Sign 9: Downplays the contribution of raising children or taking care of the household.

The husband downplays the contribution of raising children and/or taking care of the household. For couples that divide up responsibilities, where the wife looks after the house and the children, we see that the husband doesn’t recognize how much money that saves in childcare, grocery shopping, cleaning, and all the other various activities. So, he really downplays that contribution quite a bit. The husband refers to his work as meaningful because he earns money. Again, he doesn’t recognize that the wife is actually saving him money, and he uses this as his justification to spend money. At the same time, he criticizes the wife for any spending that she does.

Sign 10: Views the wife as a support person dedicated to him.

This is interesting, given the content of sign number nine. The narcissistic husband has an expectation that the wife will take care of his wants and needs. He really views this as her job, and she’s supposed to do this because he’s great, because he’s accomplished, and because he’s so important. Again, this is how he thinks of it. As part of the sign, we see that he has an expectation of sex and is offended if the wife is not interested or if she’s not feeling well. No reason is good enough for the narcissistic husband. Typically, if this happens a few times, this is when the husband starts to threaten to find a physical relationship somewhere else.

So, again, we see a good deal of manipulation with this particular sign. The narcissistic husband places a high priority on his wants but doesn’t view the wife’s needs, wants, or goals as important.

So, those are ten signs of a husband who has narcissistic traits. I know whenever I talk about topics like this, there will be a variety of opinions. Please put any opinions and thoughts in the comment section; they always generate a really interesting dialogue. As always, I hope you found this description of the husband who has narcissistic traits to be interesting. Thanks for reading!

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