Number 6: You’re suffering from an identity crisis.
You literally do not know who you are. And when you don’t know who you are, others decide that for you. And when you are surrounded by empathy-impaired, emotional manipulators who feel entitled to target, scapegoat, and otherwise harm you, that is not a good thing.
So what do you do? What do you do if this is you? A really good place to start is to decide to get to know yourself better, including your interests, likes, and dislikes. Spend some time contemplating what you want, what you really, really want. Figure out what’s important to you, including your beliefs, core values, and goals. And if you don’t have any goals, it’s time to set some and start working towards them. Take time to be with yourself in quiet solitude, and learn more about who you are without outside pressure or influence.
Recommended: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Do some healing and recovery work so you can repair the damage caused by the narcissistic perpetrators and heal your relationship with yourself. In doing so, you learn how to trust yourself and be with yourself, and feel good in your own skin, perhaps for the first time in your life. You can build greater self-awareness by practicing mindfulness and meditation. Don’t be afraid to be still and simply hold space for yourself. That alone can be a really good place to start.
Number 7: You’re easily triggered.
You’re easily triggered and often find yourself engaged in circular, mind-bending, crazy-making conversations that go nowhere with people who cannot see, hear, understand, or nevermind validate you. Even if they could, they wouldn’t, because they don’t want to. And that in itself can be triggering. Why? Because you carry so much unresolved and unprocessed emotion that it’s difficult to not react to the emotional abandonment and neglect you’re experiencing. Not to mention the deliberate provocations of the deeply unconscious people you’re exposing yourself to.
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