Number 8: You self-medicate.
You feel the need to self-medicate, whether that be with food, alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, sex, obsessive-compulsive exercising, cleaning, or even workaholism. Anything to not feel the full brunt of your unresolved emotions. Your reality is so painful that sedating yourself one way or another is the only way you can cope, or so you think.
Now the truth is you have to feel it to heal it. And until you’re willing to do that, not much is gonna change for you. Remember, the purpose of an addiction is to enable us to tolerate what is fully an intolerable reality. If you ever wanna live a happy, healthy, peaceful, productive life, shining as bright as you came to the planet to shine, you’re going to have to stop self-medicating and start feeling your feelings instead. Again, you have to feel it to heal it.
Number 9: Your health and energy are declining.
You feel drained and depleted a lot of the time. A really good question to ask yourself is this: have your health, happiness, and well-being increased or decreased as a result of this relationship? Insomnia, depression, hypertension, PTSD, and CPTSD are all very common in folks who have been or are currently being narcissistically abused. As are chronic fatigue and persistent mood swings. Rapid weight loss, headaches, and chest pains are just a few examples. Staying in the toxic environment and refusing to take radical responsibility for yourself, your life, and your personal well-being is likely to set you up for more serious manifestations of disease over time. So just how bad does it have to get before you do what you need to do to take better care of yourself? Just something to consider.
Number 10: You feel sad, irritable, angry, hurt, and frustrated a lot.
And then you feel guilty for taking your unresolved anger and sadness, as well as your hurt, out on those who don’t deserve it. So not only do you feel irritable, angry, sad, frustrated, and hurt, but you also carry a lot of guilt and shame on top of it.
Now here’s the thing. Nothing changes if nothing changes. But there is a way out. You can fully heal, find peace, get your confidence back, and come out the other side stronger, wiser, and more powerful than ever. But it’s up to you to do the work, to give yourself the gift, to decide you deserve better, and then go get it for yourself. It’s time now.
Read More: 5 Different Ways Narcissists Treat Their Exes.
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