9. Don’t expect them to change
People with a narcissistic personality disorder do not change. You may hear some other people say that they can rarely change, but you will not ever hear that here. They do not change, they may alter their behaviors for a time period, but that’s just a manipulation, it will not last.
Narcissus view people in two categories, they are either a threat or a potential victim. They are trapped in a never-ending quest for attention and approval. If you have hope or some hidden belief that they might change, you’re just setting yourself up. They don’t change. Your attention needs to be focused on how to take care of yourself when you’re around them.
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10. Don’t underestimate the power of narcissism
Narcissism is a profound distortion of a person’s sense of self. A narcissist’s life is dictated by gaining narcissistic supply. Their life is an endless pursuit of gaining attention, success, wealth, power, sexual conquests, and so many other things.
They seek this fuel, and nothing is more important than drive is so powerful that the narcissist will betray the closest to them whenever it suits them, that’s really what you’re up against. No one and nothing is more important than obtaining supply, not you, not their own children, not anything.
In closing…
We can have compassion for the deep wounds that narcissists clearly have because it is sad. It’s incredibly sad. But having compassion for their wounds must not translate into excusing them and allowing them to hurt and harm you. They will not change. In fact, they usually get much worse. It is your responsibility and obligation to protect and take care of yourself and the people in your life that you care about, and that depends on you. That is not selfish, nor narcissistic, that is healthy living.
Read more: 10 Mental Illnesses You Get From Narcissists
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