1. Zero Sense of Trust.
The empath’s first few days of healing are the toughest. There can be no genuine stability and trust when dealing with other people, which may negatively impact their academic or professional life because this stabilization is the narcissist’s tactic to get what they want at the empath’s expense.
Empaths find themselves constantly questioning rules, offers, instructions, and promises after all that have happened to them with their abusers. Their sense of reality has been badly destabilized and it will be harder for them to determine what’s deceptive and what isn’t. They might even distrust their own capabilities and question their decisions, and this means also erode their current relationship with their peers and family.
2. They Get Used To Setting Aside Their Needs.
During the abuse, the narcissist tries to make the empath’s world revolve around them. Everything the empath does should benefit them and coincide with their interests. Throughout the stressful experience, empaths have learned to devalue their own demands, minimize their standards, and set aside their emotional needs. They willingly allow the narcissist to get what is left in them because they won’t use those resources anyway.
Although this isn’t a big deal to empaths, this is a significant triumph for the narcissist. And since empaths have normalized setting their needs aside for someone else, they unknowingly apply this for an extended period, even without the narcissist’s presence already. When someone asks them to do a work-related favor outside office hours, they unconsciously violate their own boundaries and do the task instead. This unconscious tendency may last until they address it during their recovery.
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