Truth #7: Narcissists genuinely do not understand how they come across.
There are many times, particularly as you know that person pretty well, when you think, “You’re really kind of haughty,” or “You really seem to have an inappropriateness, and you step on other people’s feelings and you don’t seem to care.” If you were to try to point those things out, they’ll just look at you and say, “That’s not true,” or “That’s not what happens at all.” When they say that, they’re not necessarily doing a PR job; they honestly believe it. They tend to operate with a real low level of self-awareness. As you try to speak awareness into them, you’re going to find that your way of looking at things doesn’t necessarily match pitch with how they see things.
Recommended Book: How To Kill A Narcissist: Debunking The Myth Of Narcissism And Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse.
Truth #8: They tend to live with lots of double standards.
They may say they want you to be a certain way, but they don’t put those same standards on themselves. For example, they may say, “You need to be real wise in the use of your money, and you need to be real careful,” when over here, they’re just being wasteful as all get-out. Or they may say something like, “You criticize way too much, and you need to pull back on that,” when in fact, over here, they can criticize left and right. “Well, that’s different because they have a good reason to do so because it’s me speaking.” Or it may be that they yell at people and say, “No, you can’t yell at folks,” when in fact, they do so often. They have this double standard. If you try to call them out, first, they may not even acknowledge the truth of it, but if they do, they have a good explanation: “Well, I’m unique, and I’m different, and so the rules that apply to you don’t always apply to me.” I don’t even know if you’ll get that far with them.
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