Number 1: Talking in Circles.
After experiencing narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself avoiding direct answers, almost like you’re walking on eggshells. This happens because, in the past, even small things you said could be twisted or used against you. Dr. Ramani Duvasula, a psychologist, explains that narcissists create constant uncertainty, making you feel like you have to be very careful about what you say. To avoid conflict, you start talking around questions instead of answering them directly.
To heal, practice speaking directly in safe spaces. Focus on building confidence in your voice and remind yourself that your thoughts and feelings matter and deserve to be heard.
Number 2: Binge Eating or Restriction.
After experiencing narcissistic abuse, food can become either your best friend or your enemy. It leads you to binge eat to fill an emotional void or restrict food to regain control. Psychologist Dr. Ramani Duvasula explains that the emotional roller coaster created by such abuse often leaves you feeling out of control. It causes you to use food as a coping mechanism, either for comfort or punishment. It’s about trying to reclaim a sense of stability amidst the chaos. To improve your relationship with food, focus on nourishing your body with healthy choices and recognizing your emotional triggers.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Number 3: Adopting New Personas.
After dealing with narcissistic abuse, you might find yourself changing who you are to fit in with different groups. This happens because, during the abuse, you constantly adjust yourself to please the narcissist, losing touch with your true identity. Dr. Gabor Maté, a trauma expert, explains that when you’re stuck in survival mode, you forget who you really are. Even after the abuse, you might still shift your personality to match those around you, trying to get approval and avoid conflict.
Take note of this: focus on discovering your true interests and values while surrounding yourself with supportive people who encourage you to be authentic.
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