5. “You’re crazy.”
This is another one I hear all the time: people trying to make you convinced there’s something wrong with you. So, they’re telling you you’re crazy; they’re trying to minimize the fact that you have anything legitimate to say. That’s one way to try to shut people down—by telling them they’re crazy—because how do you argue against that?
A similar, but distinctly different one is, “If only people knew how crazy you are.” This is one that is sort of threatening to expose somebody, saying, “Look, I want to tell everybody how nuts you are,” and “If people knew how bad you actually were, no one would like you; they would reject you.” It’s another way to make people feel insecure about themselves and to feel like they have to be closer to the narcissist because other people are going to reject them. “What if I really am that crazy?” “What if people really wouldn’t like me?”
Related: 10 Weird Behaviors Narcissistic Abuse Victims Develop Over Time.
6. “I’m the only person that could ever love you.”
Unfortunately, this is a tool that narcissists use all the time. Sometimes, people in non-narcissistic relationships joke about stuff like this, but narcissists will say that consistently. They’ll remind people, “Hey, you know what? I’m the only person that could tolerate you because you’re so flawed, and you’re so annoying, and you’re so this, or you’re so that…” or “The way you look isn’t perfect, but I’ll accept you.” Those kinds of things are what narcissists want to deeply embed in people that they’re with so that they can have more mental control.
7. “No one will ever believe you.”
“No one would ever believe I behave this way, so you can tell whoever you want because they’re not going to believe you.” “Everybody likes me; why would anybody believe you if you tell them that?” It also tries to make it futile to try to fight against this, to try to say, “Hey, if I’m going to go get help from somebody or I’m going to try to get support,” they say, “Well, you can just tell people whatever you want; you’re crazy, and everybody knows it, so you can tell people, and they’re not going to believe you anyway.” That’s another way to keep people in line and to keep them in control.
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