Number 3: Stay independent.
Have your own mind and do your own thing. When it comes to relationships with narcissists, you’re not striving for healthy interdependence. You can’t achieve that with these people, so heal your own codependency issues and become progressively more and more independent. The goal is to need them for nothing, most certainly not for validation or approval nor anything else for that matter. So you want to stay independent, emotionally, psychologically, practically, and financially. And if you’re not there yet, know that you can get there, and it’s time now to start moving in that direction.
Another good way to stay independent is to keep your distance in so much as you’re able. Nothing communicates that you need them for nothing more clearly than your complete and total absence. And this will serve you, because it will also lessen the likelihood that they’ll know you’re on them, which believe me, if you can keep it that way, you’ll be much better off.
Now, the bottom line is when it comes to commanding anyone’s respect, even those who hold you in contempt and disdain, you must respect yourself first. This is key, why? Because our outside is always a reflection of our inside. So if we don’t respect ourselves, we shouldn’t be surprised when others don’t respect us. Furthermore, when we do respect ourselves, we send a very clear message with regard to what we’re available for, and what we are and are not willing to put up with.
So how do we go about respecting ourselves?
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