Now, setting clear boundaries is vital, but there’s more to it, in particular when dealing with narcissistic people. Along with clearly communicating your boundaries, those boundaries have to come with very clear consequences if your boundaries are breached or ignored, and you have to actually follow through with the consequences if and when your boundaries are crossed. For example, that could sound like this: “If you continue to yell at me, I will end the conversation by hanging up”. Then, the next time they yell, you hang up. Crystal clear communication, no?
Here’s the thing, narcissists respond to consequences. So be sure you’re not just making idle threats, but you actually back yourself by backing up what you say and following through. Setting crystal clear boundaries with confidence shows people that you actually respect yourself and that you’re nobody’s pushover. It’s essential if you ever want to be respected by anyone, but especially by narcissistic people who wouldn’t know a boundary if it bopped them on the head.
So it’s up to you to teach them what your limits are and what you are and are not available for. You have to be clear about what you will and will not tolerate. If someone crosses your boundaries, speak up and let them know. If you’re an adult and you still don’t know how to do this, it’s time to learn. This is a fundamental life skill you must possess if you ever want to be able to live a happy, healthy, peaceful, and productive life.
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