So, you’re dealing with a narcissist, and they’re crazy; they drive you absolutely insane. But when you’re dealing with a narcissist, they seemingly always are in control, or at least, they want to have control over you. They do all sorts of things to maintain that control because control is a form of supply that they get. When they are controlling you, they get narcissistic supply.
Basically, what I want you to understand is that narcissists have no inner sense of value. They were traumatized at some point when they were young, when they were children. I’ve also read things that it could’ve come from even overindulgence, but most of the time, it comes from trauma or neglect—something that happens to cause them to have little to zero self-worth.
I’ve often said they’re like the hollow chocolate Easter Bunny: they look good on the outside, but there’s nothing going on on the inside. As a result, they feel that the world is not a safe place, so they’re not trusting. They feel they have to manipulate every single situation. They live off of something we call “supply.” Supply is anything that feeds their ego. It feeds their external sense of value.
Supply can be money, a big prestigious job, or having all the trappings that feed people’s egos, like living in the right place, having the right spouse, or whatever. But most often, and a lot of times, supply for a narcissist comes in the form of something much darker, much deeper, much worse: devaluing people, debasing people, treating people poorly. Because then they have that sense of control.
The following are 3 signs a narcissist is losing control:
Suggested Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
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