3. Our independence.
The narcissist will steal your independence, or in other words, your freedom. In my article, who can make a narcissist happy, I revealed that having control is very important to the narcissist. The narcissist hates what they cannot control, stealing your identity, your confidence, and more is what helps the narcissists to achieve the level of control they need. It all works together seamlessly.
The narcissist wants you to be subject to their authority and deluded superiority. They want to control your actions and your thoughts. They want you to be dependent on them, even though they are the ones who actually need you more than you need them.
Their aim is to make you emotionally dependent, and if they can make you financially dependent, they will. The more dependent you are on a narcissist, the more they can control you. The narcissist wants you as their prisoner and a servant to do their bidding without question or critique. Your independence is the ultimate aim of the narcissist. The narcissist wants to steal your freedom. That includes your time as well- they like to keep you busy doing things for them.
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So when it comes to the narcissist, when I say that they steal from you it is so much more than tangible goods, if they could take your entire being and make it theirs, they would. Nothing is off-limits to the narcissist. The narcissist wants people that they can control, they want people who lack individuality, they want people who are emotionally dependent and emotionally weak. And if you are not this way, they try to break you and turn you into what they want.
Our individuality, confidence, and independence intimidate the narcissist, so their aim is to steal them from us and leave us broken, insecure, and emotionally dependent. The narcissist wants us as a tagalong to just make them look good. They want to control our very existence and what we are about.
So, if a narcissist has stolen these things from you, part of your journey of healing from narcissistic abuse is recovering and rediscovering who you are. We need to take back what the narcissist has stolen, claim what is rightfully ours, and blossom into the beautiful souls that they so despise as always.
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