Number 1: Naming Their Private Parts.
This may sound laughable at first; after all, naming private parts could seem like harmless humor, couldn’t it? But when a narcissist does it, there is a much darker undertone. They don’t just pick a cute or funny nickname; they pick something grandiose, commanding, or even absurd. For them, this is not just about fun; it’s about creating a sense of superiority, even in the most intimate parts of your relationship. When they name their private parts, it’s a way to elevate themselves beyond the ordinary. They want you to view their body as something remarkable, better than you, unique, worthy of admiration, and even worship.
It’s no longer just about physical intimacy; it becomes about their ego. They say things like, “You’re lucky to have access to Johnny,” or make jokes that leave you feeling like intimacy is a privilege they’re bestowing upon you. But what’s really happening here is that they are demoralizing you. By turning something deeply personal into a performance, they are stripping the act of its vulnerability and turning it into another way to assert dominance over you. You’re no longer an equal partner; you are someone who is expected to play along with their inflated sense of importance, even in the damn bedroom.
If you do not react the way they expect you to—if you find the name game ridiculous or refuse to indulge their theatrics—that’s when the belittling starts. They’ll make you feel like you are not being cooperative and that you are not fulfilling their s£xµal desires. Therefore, the harm to the relationship is caused by you and you only. The truth is, they’re using you as a tool for pleasure. You are a thing they use to gain bodily pleasure and then throw away.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
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