Number 5: Set strong boundaries and stick to them.
If you do not have strong boundaries, you are going to be one of the easiest targets for the narcissist, because a narcissist wants someone who would let them walk all over them. They want to be with a supply who can’t say no. They want to be with someone who just lets the narcissist decide everything for this person, because that gives them absolute control. So when you are in a situation where you can’t go no contact and have to deal with them regularly, maybe you are co-parenting, maybe you are going through a court case or something else, it is important to set firm, rigid, and unbreachable boundaries.
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You can leave a gray area for the narcissist to kind of guess. Maybe this is the crack that I can seep in through. Maybe it’s not that rigid or I still have some room to exploit him or her. You have to be black and white. You have to be all or nothing. It can’t be, “Yeah, you can visit sometimes, but most of the times you can’t.” You have to be, “No, you can’t. This is it. You can’t enter my premises. You can’t enter my house. You can’t visit me at this time or you can’t do this, or you can only do this.” You have to be, you got to work in absolutes here. That is the only language they understand. They will try to manipulate you into doing things as per their wishes. They may also try to control different aspects of your life, like who you interact with, what you do in your spare time, or how you connect with your children.
Set boundaries and make your needs known. When you set boundaries, you have to be very calculated. You have to be very strategic also. On the sidelines, you have to support your boundaries using a third-party support system, for example, the court getting the co-parenting agreement passed through the court, and if they violate any of the terms, they would be penalized. You have the corner the beast. You need to know that you can’t just say that this is your boundary and then expect them to obey it. You have to set the consequences for them to see your boundary and to know that they can’t break it, it’s unbreakable. You have to be very, very assertive, and very confident while setting boundaries. And if you want to know how to set boundaries with a narcissist, read this article here.
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