Weird Habit #1: Uneven Food Distribution.
They distribute food unevenly based on how they feel about you at that moment. This one used to happen a lot in my household. If a narcissist is love bombing someone, maybe a guest they want to impress, a sibling they are currently favoring, or even a partner they are trying to keep hooked, that person gets the best. They will be served the warmest, most flavorful portion, arranged nicely on a plate with extra care and presentation. It’s like watching a scene from a cooking show.
But if you are the target that week, let’s say you are the scapegoat—the one who spoke back or simply the one they are projecting their shame onto—you get the scraps: the watery curry, the stale bread, the overcooked rice that has been reheated too many times. You will sit there, trying not to show the hurt on your face, pretending that it’s okay, that you do not care. But inside, you will feel that sting, that small but unmistakable message: You do not matter.
The most cruel part? They won’t say anything. They will act completely normal. Sometimes, they will even make a joke or gaslight you if you mention it. “It’s just food,” they’ll say. “You’re too sensitive.” But you will notice the pattern repeating over and over. The food becomes a form of reward and punishment—a mirror of how they feel about you in that moment.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
Continue reading on the next page
Sharing is caring!