Weird Habit #4: Future Faking with Food.
They future fake you through food. This one took me a long time to recognize. Back when I hadn’t yet seen through the mask, when I still hoped things could change, my mother would often use food to reel me in emotionally. She would say things like, “Oh, I’ve been planning to make your favorite dish and those dried tomatoes you love. I might even try that dessert you mentioned the other day.” She would say all of this in front of others, of course, especially people who still saw her as the sweet, generous woman she pretended to be.
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They would smile, and I would feel a twinge of warmth—maybe even guilt for pulling away emotionally. “Maybe she is trying,” I would think. But then I would show up, and nothing would be made. Can you believe that? Sometimes, not even a drink of water is offered. She would act surprised I even expected anything, or she would flip it around and say, “I know my son. I know he will eat anything I cook for him with love. Won’t you?” And then, like a dog, I would go, “Yes, Mom.” That’s how she had groomed me to be her puppy.
What I eventually realized is that it wasn’t about the food; it was about control. She made promises to pull me close, build anticipation, and make me let my guard down, only to disappoint me again. And in front of others, she still looked like she tried. It is such a subtle tactic, but it is devastating because it breaks your ability to trust. It makes you feel foolish for hoping.
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