Number 5: Forced eating in a group like you’re part of a cult, and you cannot do anything on your own.
My father would force it on us to eat together. Eating together is a good thing, you know, that’s a family value. It makes you feel like you belong to a group and you feel safe and whatnot. But no, in this case, it’s all about torture. If you do not eat in a group, then who would they abuse? Who would they shame? Who would they use as a source of supply when eating? Who would they terrify and terrorize? If they were to eat alone, wouldn’t they feel really unimportant? Wouldn’t they feel abandoned and isolated? Narcissists don’t like abandonment. They do not like being ignored. When you do not want to eat with them, they feel like you have rejected them and they do not like it at all. It’s like a pact. It’s an agreement that you have invisibly signed according to which you will have to eat with them no matter what. No matter how late they are, how they are ignoring you, if you’re hungry, it does not matter. If they want to eat, you will have to eat as well, whether or not you’re feeling like it.
That is my story. How do I know this? It has happened to me. You’re never allowed to love food, which is why a lot of survivors then either avoid it, have a very bad relationship with food, become emotional eaters, or just become anorexic. They do not want to eat at all. Food naturally was associated with trauma, so they hate it.
Read More: 7 Things Narcissists Do When They’re Alone.
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