Number 5: “You made me.”
You made me cheat on you. You made me act irresponsibly. You made me move out. You made me lose my job. Whatever bad thing is going on that they did, it’s your fault. You did it. You made me. If you had been better, if you had been less, if you had been more, if you had been whatever, you made it happen—it’s all your fault. It’s definitely all on your shoulders that this happened, including cheating on you, not making enough money, or whatever it is that you may have an issue with them about.
Suggested: Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse.
Number 6: “You’re the only one who thinks that.”
What narcissists often try to do is gaslight you, try to make you feel bad, and try to make you feel like you’re the only one who thinks that way because the whole neighborhood thinks that I’m amazing. They’ve lined up their flying monkeys, and especially covert narcissists are really, really good at this. If you haven’t checked out my article on covert narcissists, now’s a great time to do that.
What they’re really trying to do is make you think that you are nuts, that you’re the only one that feels this way about this person—you’re the only one who thinks this way about a certain thing that they’re trying to convince you of. Therefore, you’re the weird one; you’re the oddball. So you go, “Well, I don’t want to be weird. I don’t want to be odd. I don’t want to be the odd man out.” I guess I’ll go along with what everybody else thinks, whatever the narcissist is trying to convince you of.
Read More: 10 Signs of a Husband with Narcissistic Traits.
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