3. Narcissists hate happy people.
If you’ve been around a narcissist, I know you’ve felt this. And there are tons of videos and articles out there about how narcissists like to ruin things like birthdays and holidays. Part of the reason for this is because the narcissist isn’t the center of attention in that moment. And the other part is they’re jealous of your joy.
Narcissists hurt other people because they’re deeply unhappy. As they say, ‘hurt people, hurt people.’ And so when you get a promotion at work or someone compliments you on your outfit choice, you might feel like you’re floating on a cloud, if only for the moment, until the narcissist knocks you right down. It’s kind of their favorite thing to do. And this is when you’re going to see venom and contempt come through when there’s really no reason for it. And it’s confusing, isn’t it? Shouldn’t someone who loves you be happy when you’re happy? That’s just not the case with a narcissist. And it’s exactly why your happiness is the best revenge. Because when you’re away from them, they can’t do anything to stop it.
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4. The successful person.
Have you ever noticed how a narcissist acts when someone else gets a promotion, wins an award, or buys a nice car? Really anything that shows someone’s accomplishing things and feeling good about it. So in these moments around narcissists, usually you can expect that same old contempt and venom coming through, even if they don’t outright show it. It’s written all over their face.
If they do show it, you might encounter eye rolls, rude comments, or just an overall raincloud vibe. So the translation for all these behaviors and for the outright contempt is the narcissist is silently saying, ‘What about me? I’m the one who matters here. Anyone else’s success is straight-up threatening to a narcissist.’ Which is exactly why after you move forward from them, going on to bigger and better things is the sweetest revenge. Your wins remind the narcissist that they aren’t as special as they thought. Because even if a narcissist does accomplish things, they like to think that they’re the only ones who deserve praise. So this is another case where you will find the greatest success after you leave the narcissist in the rearview mirror. And it’s also the best revenge.
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