5. The truth-teller.
So another person that a narcissist can’t stand, and I mean truly despises, is the truth-teller. And if you’re the truth-teller of your family or group, you know exactly what I mean. Truthtellers will call out bad behavior regardless of who it’s done to. So these are the last people you’ll see as flying monkeys for the narcissist. They aren’t the ones who will be doing the narcissist’s dirty work. I can pretty well guarantee that. Quite the contrary, they’re the ones trying to clean it up with a healthy dose of truth. And it’s pretty obvious why a narcissist would despise this person. Truthtellers make it difficult for narcissists to manipulate, abuse, and exploit others.
So what does a narcissist do around a truth-teller? They might avoid or alienate them. But this can sometimes be difficult to do, especially in family dynamics. So if they can’t avoid or alienate, they’ll do everything they can to discredit this person. Maybe they’ll make fun of them, insult their intelligence, and maybe even claim that their motives are impure. This is exactly how the truth tellers so often become scapegoats in the black sheep, unfortunately.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
If you can relate to this and you feel like you’re the truth-teller, keep being you. But I would also strongly caution to let go of any expectations that people are going to change. People will only ever change when they’re ready, and that’s usually when the pain of staying in the same place is greater than the fear of change itself. So keep standing up for yourself, and also try to learn to love people for who they are and where they are, or to let them go, whichever seems like the healthier option for you. But expecting them to be something they’re not probably isn’t the healthiest option.
6. Narcissists hate highly empathetic people.
And if you ask a narcissist, they’ll tell you that they hate empathetic people because they’re weak. And they truly believe this. They believe that empathy is something to be exploited. But the two things, empathy and weakness, aren’t the same.
Here’s where the narcissist might get a little bit confused. Someone who’s highly empathetic and lacks good boundaries is going to have a lot of vulnerabilities that the narcissist will see as a weakness to exploit. So if you are highly empathetic, take this as your sign to check your boundaries, especially if you’ve been hurt by a narcissist. And I want to be clear, I’m not saying that the only way a narcissist can hurt you is if your boundaries are weak. And if a narcissist did hurt you, it’s certainly not your fault. But I am saying it’s much easier for them to hurt you when your boundaries are weak. So try to take an honest look at where you are right now and see if you need to secure those boundaries.
Now let’s take this a little deeper than surface level and talk about why the narcissist really hates empathetic people. And the reason is similar to why they hate happy people. You have something the narcissist will never have, not to any meaningful degree. Narcissists lack empathy. And when I say empathy, I mean emotional or affective empathy. This is the type of empathy they see as a weakness because it’s the type of empathy that allows you to feel deep, meaningful connections.
Read More: 7 Things That Frighten Narcissists To Their Core.
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