5. ”I know I have needs, but right now…”
A fifth phrase that you will not hear from a narcissist, and that is, ‘I know that I have needs, but right now, let’s focus on your needs. How can I help you?’ Wouldn’t it be nice? Now, sometimes a narcissist might do something that seems to be like they’re doing you a favor, they’re helping you out. But I can assure you it’s a transaction, and you’re eventually going to owe them something down the road. Healthy individuals, it’s like, ‘You know, there’s a huge give-and-take in relationships, and sometimes your needs come to the forefront; sometimes my needs come to the forefront. And we’re just going to have a sense of camaraderie and equality and fair play with one another. So I want to be tuned into you, just as you’re going to be tuned into me.’ A narcissist is thinking, ‘If that implies equality, I’m not going to do that.’ And so when you talk about your needs, they’re thinking, ‘Oh, now what?’ And so it’s a bother to them, and they don’t want to be bothered.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
6. ”Let’s compromise; I’m willing…”
A sixth phrase you will not hear from a narcissist, and that is, ‘Let’s compromise.’ ‘I’m willing to move in your direction if that’s something that can show goodwill.’ See, compromise, to a narcissist, implies weakness. It implies that they’re giving their strength over to someone else. That’s like, ‘Oh, no, if there’s going to be some compromise and we didn’t need to have compromise around here, you need to compromise with me.’ That’s how they think. If it’s going to happen, it’s not going to be from me to you at all because they have to be on the high end; they’re not peacemakers. They can be bullies.
Read More: 4 Dark Truths a Narcissist Cannot Accept.
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