4. The narcissist is never going to validate you.
I don’t care what you achieve, what you do, or do not do. The narcissist is not ever going to validate you, your accomplishments, your achievements, nothing. In fact, narcissists are notorious for moving the goalposts.
They want you to be stuck running in circles, in that hamster wheel, desperately trying to achieve whatever it is you think that they want from you. And as soon as you do, guess what, now the goal post has moved over here and they want you to do something completely different.
So this is a game to the narcissist, and they enjoy watching you strive and work to impress them and give them what they want, and then rip the rug out from underneath you and change the rules. Validating anything positive about you or anything that you have achieved is just not going to happen.
5. The narcissist is never ever going to be loyal to you.
Their only loyalty is to themselves, their own agenda, and whatever they feel is in their best interests. I don’t care if you’ve been married to the narcissist for 50 years. I don’t care if the narcissist is your parent, if it comes down to something the narcissist wants or being honorable and loyal to you, guess what, they’ll drop you and whatever loyalty they should give you like a bad habit.
Narcissists don’t know the meaning, literally, they don’t know the meaning of loyalty. They are liars, cheaters, they will steal and manipulate you indefinitely. So just understand, you will never have their loyalty. No matter who you are in their lives, their loyalty is completely reserved for themselves and whatever it is that they want at that time, that is the only thing that they will ever be loyal to.
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