6. They lie about your family.
Another lie that a narcissist will tell is your family hates me. A narcissist has to drive a wedge between you and the people who love you the most. A narcissist must triangulate you. A narcissist will, behind your back, talk about you to your family for as long as that’s permitted to go on. They will talk about you to your friends. They will act like they care about your feelings. But a narcissist will try to triangulate to set the stage so that people think that there’s something wrong with you so that, in the event that this relationship goes kaput or they’re caught cheating or stealing or whatever, they already have an alibi. ‘She was crazy,’ or ‘He was crazy,’ or ‘He was dysfunctional. He had so many problems. He was insecure. He was needy.’ The narcissist is setting the stage, wanting other people to think there’s already something wrong with you, that in the event that something goes crazy, they can’t possibly be to blame. So they get to stay on that pedestal in first place.
Now what they say about your family, your friends is they’ll turn it around. They’ll say, ‘Your best friend hates me.’ Your best friend could be very nice to the narcissist, but that narcissist feels like you and your sister get along or you have faith in your mother. They’re gonna say, ‘Oh, she hates me,’ or ‘Oh, he hates me,’ or ‘Your mother doesn’t like me.’ So if you’re with somebody who is trying to drive a wedge between you and your family, and if this happens over and over and over, that’s a huge red flag. A narcissist will say your family hates me, even though the truth is they hate your family because your family’s a threat to them.
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7. You are crazy.
We’ve probably all heard this one. One of the greatest lies of narcissists tell is ‘you’re crazy, you poor thing, you’re losing your mind. Maybe you need medication, maybe you should go talk to a therapist’. What a narcissistic person will do is try to convince you that you’re crazy. And so the lie is you’re the crazy one; it’s not them. They will do absolutely anything to make sure that you never leave them. It’s really sad because, in order for a narcissist to feel good about themselves, they have to put other people down, and it’s absolutely mind-boggling to think, to think that somebody’s mindset is, ‘If I destroy them, they’ll never leave me.’ To me, it’s just bonkers. It’s like crazy town.
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