Number 3: When they lose control over you.
If you resist all of the narcissist’s manipulations and become uncontrollable, you will become extremely unappealing to them. Narcissists view relationships in terms of utility. If they perceive that you no longer serve their needs or provide the same level of admiration, attention, services, or resources, they may discard you forever or they may keep you nearby as a secondary source of supply in case they need something in the future. However, they will not actively pursue you or hoover you back as their primary partner.
Their focus has already shifted to securing new sources of supply who are superior to you and more compliant—definitely easier to manipulate. The narcissist’s lack of genuine emotional connection means that they can discard and replace you without remorse, viewing you merely as a tool that has outlived its usefulness.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Number 4: Excessive emotional neediness.
Narcissists are primarily focused on their own needs and desires, often lacking empathy and patience to deal with their partner’s emotional needs. It’s just too much for them, and it disrupts the narcissist’s sense of control and drains their energy, which they prefer to invest in more gratifying sources of supply. In their minds, maintaining a connection with an emotionally needy person is not worth the effort unless they are providing them with extreme levels of admiration, such as in the case of a partner with borderline personality disorder, where the narcissist often gets addicted to the intense validation, attention, and admiration that the person with BPD is providing.
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