5. Ghosting You With The Silent Treatment.
It’s how they passive-aggressively communicate a few things. First of all, contempt and disdain. Unprovoked and unwarranted as it may be, they prop themselves up by looking down their nose at anyone they feel is beneath them or isn’t useful to them somehow. It’s also how they try to establish or maintain control in the relationship, “I’ll show you by ghosting you and ignoring you, I’m so powerful.”
How the game is supposed to go is you supposed to run after and chase them. Now, when this doesn’t happen and their childish little game actually blows up in their face because you won’t play, they move on to the next game.
6. The Victim Card.
No matter their transgressions and relationship crimes, somehow they always manage to land on the victim side of the story. They can behave like a complete and utter asshole in the relationship, but when you won’t participate, engage, or play along suddenly they’re the victim.
With narcissists, it’s all about domination, power, and control. The same is true even with the more passive-aggressive covert narcissist. When they realize they have no power over you and cannot dominate or control you or the situation for that matter because you step out of the ring and refuse to participate in their childish nonsense, they move on to the next game.
Lundy Bancroft: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
7. The Smear Campaign.
When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will work overtime to control how others see, think, and feel about you. When in their minds, all they’re left with in terms of power or control over you in the situation is manipulating the perceptions of others, poisoning the minds and hearts of others towards you, you can be sure they’ll go at it like it’s a full-time job.
And this is precisely why our own healing and recovery work is so important. You need to get yourself to a place where you’re so solid in the knowledge of who you are that you can rise above whatever smear campaign may be underway. And I fully get that this is not easy, especially when we’re still deeply wounded and carrying a ton of trauma, but you can get there. And in my opinion, you must. Friends, it boils down to doing your work and you do it because you’re worth it.
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