#1. Non-stop accusation and blame.
The first sign that says they’re trying to teach you that they’re done with you is that they’re going to give you non-stop accusations and blaming. Once they begin realizing that you’re not too tuned into their style, then they can go into all sorts of negative accusations about who you are. “You’re a liar,” or “You’re a phony,” or “You’re a manipulator,” or “You’re just this non-compliant person. Nobody can get along with you.” It’s just going to keep coming at you over and over and over. Of course, this is their way of defending themselves by projecting onto you what they won’t come to terms with inside themselves. But they can’t see that, and even if you point it out, they’re not going to admit anything like that.
#2. Bait you into arguing, then blaming you for arguing.
A second indicator that they’re letting you know they’re done is they’ll start baiting you to argue, and then they blame you for being argumentative. They’ll say things that are very disagreeable, or they’ll make accusations, or they’ll challenge you on all sorts of things that you might say or do. Then, when you come back and protest, they keep coming at you. If you blow up or just begin to act in an untoward way towards them, then they can look at you and say, “See, look how difficult you are.” It’s their way of being able to take themselves off the hook by making you out to be the bad guy.
Suggested Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
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