#3. Blame you for the collapse of the relationship.
A third way that they let you know that they’re done is that they’ll blame you for the collapse of the relationship. They know that it’s eventually going to come to an end, so they start laying the foundation and saying, “You’re the one who’s very difficult. I’ve done everything that I know to do in my power to treat you right, and you just can’t do things well at all.” They make sure that you’re going to be set up as the foil; that’s how they think.
#4. Repeatedly claiming the victim’s position.
A fourth way that they’ll let you know that they’re done is they’ll take it even further and begin repeatedly claiming a victim’s position. In other words, they say, “Look how miserable you have made my life. Everything would have been a whole lot better for me had it not been for you.” Of course, what they do is conveniently forget that they’re the ones who set up so much of the difficulty in the first place. It’s all about how you are inadequate because you fail to let them exploit you in the way they wanted to be exploited.
#5. They will treat you as if you’re just an absolute nobody.
Interestingly, while they’re looking at you for supply, they must see something valuable about you because they want your approval, and they’re hoping that you’re going to give them the very best of what you have to offer. But over time, they change their tune, and it’s kind of the old sour grapes complaint, “There wasn’t anything there in you to get anyway.” They let you know you’re not that desirable; you never were. “I was just messing with you.”
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