7. They demand your attention.
So, the last sign that you might be texting with a narcissist is that very early on in this relationship—and that’s what we’re talking about in this article—is that they demand your attention. They expect you to stop whatever you’re doing to text them at any time. And so, it doesn’t matter if you’re at work, if you’ve already told them, “I’m at this family event,” or “I’m at a wedding; I’m here to have fun, I can’t really be on my phone the whole time, it’s rude.” A narcissist will take that as a sign that they need to text more. They need you to prove your love for them or your allegiance to them by stopping what you’re doing and texting them. And if you don’t, they will throw an outright fit.
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What that looks like over text is a whole lot of ultimatums and a whole lot of questioning your loyalty—questioning whether you appreciate them. They’re very likely to give the ultimatum that if you don’t text me back immediately, we are over. Now, with this, I want to add a caveat because I know that many of you have been in relationships with narcissists for an extended period of time. When you’re in a relationship with a narcissist for so long, you’re going to feel some level of uncertainty in the relationship. In a lot of relationships, they have given you reason to believe that they’re cheating. They may have even given you evidence that they’re cheating. And so, you might get uncomfortable if you’re in this and trying to make the relationship work. You might actually get uncomfortable that they’re not texting you back right away, especially when they’re not really doing anything special or if they’re telling you they’re somewhere and you don’t believe them. So you might feel like you’re on the other end of this. But I’m just going to say it’s different when the other person has given you a reason not to trust them.
What we’re talking about here in these red flags is simply demanding attention, especially when this person hasn’t been in your life for a very long time. This is someone that you may feel an intense connection with because they may be love-bombing you, and they might use that as a reason for the intensity of their messages. But if you didn’t know this person two weeks ago and you’re at a family event or whatever, and they’re demanding that you return their texts immediately, or else, it’s a major red flag.
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