Tactic 4 – Point out their mistakes.
Again, we’re circling around the defiance of the false self. So let’s imagine that the narcissist is somewhere on the spectrum between narcissism and psychopathy, which is common, they’re boundary breakers, they push the limits, and they tend to be a little self-destructive as well, so they tend, over time, to overplay their hand. So let’s say that they’ve started moving into a realm, where they do not really have expertise. Let’s say that they’re moving into an area where they don’t have that much experience and they don’t have that much control and they actually start to make mistakes. So if you point out that they’re making big mistakes, or you let them know subtly, in a non-emotional way, that you’re aware that some of the things that they’ve told you are simply wrong, and you can prove, you subtly let them know that you’re aware of a source that contradicts most of what they say and that proves them, you have proof, cast-iron proof, that some of the things that they’ve said are simply wrong.
Recommended Book: Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself- By Shahida Arabi.
They’re hyper-vigilant, so they’ll constantly be looking, if you’re the significant other, they’ll constantly be looking to see who and what you’re aware of and the content you’re aware of and to see if their little con, the charlatanism of the false self that they’re imposing on you is working. I’m amazing, I’m very clever, I know about this, that, the other thing, I’m qualified in this, that and the other thing, and then you sort of subtly go, ‘Yeah, I actually know that that’s not true and I know that some of the things you’ve said are wrong, and this is how,’ but you don’t say it directly, you’ll drive them completely insane because the idea that they could be wrong defies the false self and creates that narcissistic mortification. What I’ve observed is under these circumstances the next phase that they will go into is rage and they will then start vociferously attacking the source that has proved them to be wrong. That’s a sign you’ve got them by the short and curlies.
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