Tactic 7 – Adult and Individuate.
Step seven, again, ends with healthy messaging, and this is the most powerful thing that you can do. When you’ve spent a lot of time being brainwashed by a narcissist, you will be reduced to their narcissistic level of thinking. It’s a terrible shame, but it’s the way it works. Your ambition should not be to take revenge on the narcissist, should not be to torture or punish the narcissist. What’s the opposite of wanting to punch the narcissist back and show them that you’re bigger than them and better than them? It doesn’t matter because you’re not engaging in this tit-for-tat battle. All you need to do is to become an adult, raise your consciousness, individuate, and use this as an opportunity in your life now to become a more emotionally mature individual.
If you want to continue on with your life, and you wanna get on with it, and you wanna be not just surviving, but thriving, then become more adult, become more individuated, in the Jungian sense, and become more emotionally mature. This will drive them completely insane because I think, not consciously, but on an unconscious level, they kind of want you to be a version of them. So there’s a desire to turn you into them. It satiates the ego. It’s like they’re looking to have an army of brainwashed zombies, undead, white walkers, and vampire followers behind them with them as the king or queen and them as the leader.
So when you individuate, you’re going, ‘Nope, I’m not doing that. ‘I’m a person separate from you,’ and this is where I’ll end it. That is the ultimate defiance. ‘I am a human being separate from you. ‘I existed before you and I will exist after you. ‘You were one, short, dull chapter in my life.’ That is the worst narcissistic injury you could possibly inflict. Get on with your life, become more adult, individuate, become more emotionally mature, and live the best life that you can.
Read More: 10 Weird Behaviors of People Abused By Narcissists.
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