6. Other people are going to test your changes.
The sixth thing that I want you to remember is that anytime you make changes to any situation in life, other people are gonna test your changes. So when you’re starting to make these changes where they’re no longer the center of attention, and you’re actually pulling focus on you, when you begin to remember that you have to stand tall, that you also begin to work on those values as morals, beliefs, and creating those boundaries, and being true to yourself, they’re probably going to test you on these new changes because it’s going to be extremely different than the old you, the way that you used to act.
So, remember that when they’re testing you, we got to stay the course. We also don’t want to lose our cool, we don’t want to get angry, and it’s really hard not to. But the more that we can be more adult-like, the more that we can be more healthy, and the more that we can be, the more consistent will go a long way to retraining the person in this situation. But consistency is key.
Because like I said earlier, if you give them an inch, they will take a mile. And if they don’t believe that you’re really believing this new change, they’re gonna find ways to break you Down. Because remember, a narcissist doesn’t like boundaries, it’s not something they’re fond of. It’s not something they like, and they don’t really understand them.
So when you’re creating this new healthy kind of atmosphere within yourself, they’re gonna test you. Just be ready for those tests and just keep working on it because over a period of time, you’re gonna retrain them at least to a certain degree, and you’re gonna have at least a little bit or even more peace of mind than you’ve had in the past.
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