Number 1: Your partner has unrealistic expectations of you and the relationship.
Now, we all have basic expectations from our partners, right? Like, we expect them to do certain household chores and have calm discussions with us. These are totally reasonable and even helpful. But problems arise when these expectations get too high. It can even feel like they’re expecting you to have magical powers so you can meet every little whim they have. What’s worse? Nothing you do to meet those expectations ever seems good enough for your partner. And, in turn, they begin feeling resentful towards you. This just shows they might have a skewed view of others, especially you since you’re their romantic partner.
They may also have a distorted view of reality and their own part in the relationship. The famous playwright, William Shakespeare, once said, “Expectation is the root of all heartache.” And it will do you good to heed his words. You’re human, not a superhero. So, if you constantly feel like you’re failing to meet your partner’s expectations, it might be a sign that they’re using you instead of loving you for who you are.
A Book: Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men.
Number 2: They believe the world, including you, owes them.
You can’t expect to get something for nothing, right? But that’s exactly the belief of the people out there who have no problem using others to get what they want. So, they’re the ones always complaining about not getting the recognition, privileges, or rewards they think they deserve, even though they haven’t earned them. If you’re with someone like that, they probably think relationships work the same way. By this, we mean that they expect you to love them and meet their every need just because you’re with them.
But you won’t see them put in any effort to reciprocate. They believe that they’re granting you the privilege of their presence, so it’s just right for you to do everything for them in return. But remember, no one is entitled to anyone else’s time, energy, or affection. Loving relationships are a two-way street where both partners give and take equally.
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