5. The projection game
The fifth game that they commonly play is the one of projection, and projection if you think about in a movie, theatre, the projectors over here in the pictures over there in projection you, they see in you what’s going on inside of them.
For example, let’s suppose the narcissist is a highly critical person, and so in projection, that narcissist may say, you know, I’ve been watching you, and you’re a very critical person, or the narcissist has problems with immorality issues. They say things like, you’re not someone I can trust well at all. That’s the pot calling pale black, but they don’t really get into that part. games narcissist play
They see in you what they don’t want to have to deal with in themselves, and then if you come along and say well, let’s talk about where this fits with you, it’s like, see there you go, you’re always trying to put it on to me, so they accuse you of the very thing that they’re doing or the very thing they’re struggling with that’s the projection, and it creates confusion which allows them to stay in the dominant kind of position. That’s the name of their game.
6. The broad generalization game
Many times, narcissists in their manipulation will speak in broad generalizations. As you’re trying to pin them down and talk with them about specific problems, they may say things like, you know, for as long as I’ve known you, you’ve had problems with insecurity.
So they make these broad statements, and it’s like well, I have my moments but that’s not the sum total of everything I am, or maybe they’ll say, you know, I remember you telling me about how do you had some insecurities as a teenager, and I’m seeing it right now that’s just something that’s followed you for your entire life. games narcissist play
In fact, your whole family is full of insecure people, and you’re just playing that out broad statements like that, or everyone knows that you tell lies or that you don’t follow through on things or constantly doing things wrong. Sometimes those kinds of problems might be there, but then they turn it into these broad wide statements, and it’s a way of labeling you as the loser, they don’t see you as being a mixture of plusses and minuses like we all are.
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