Number 2: “You’re so insecure.”
When you start paying attention to your gut instincts and all the things you’re observing that just don’t seem to add up and all the holes in all their stories as well as the rationalization and justification nonsense they use in an attempt to distract you from the real issue, and deflect attention and responsibility away from themselves. Suddenly, the issue will have to be that you are so insecure otherwise who or what might actually be the issue, right? So, they shift blame while deflecting and projecting all of their own issues, insecurity, and feelings of inadequacy, onto you in an attempt to avoid having the light of truth shone on who they actually are and what they’ve been up to.
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No matter what has gone on, they’ll make the situation all about you and your being so insecure or otherwise problematic as opposed to facing and dealing with the real issue at hand. And the truth is, honest, sincere, and genuine people don’t need to scapegoat you by playing these emotionally abusive and sick psychological games. But for a narcissist, there’s no other way. The survival of their false persona depends on you and your so-called insecurities being the problem. And along these lines, you’ll also hear phrases like, “You always make such a big deal out of nothing,” or, “I can’t believe you think this or believe I did that.”
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And another thing you’ll often hear is, “That’s in the past. How long are you going to stay bitter? Get over it already.” And they do this with deliberate intent to destabilize and invalidate you and cause you to doubt yourself. And this is especially true if you’re an empath because you’ll have a natural tendency to go within and question yourself as well as your own behavior and motives. Since you would never deliberately deflect responsibility, blame, shame, and project onto another human being in this fashion, you’ll naturally assume that the person you’re dealing with wouldn’t either. But if you’re dealing with someone with a destructive narcissist personality pattern, you couldn’t be more wrong, everything is about them except, of course, their mistakes, shortcomings, and their damaging and destructive behavior. That, according to them, has to be all about you.
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Believe it or not, deep down narcissists are malicious and operate from a fundamental place of malevolent intent. They rather enjoy intentionally shaking your sense of security until you are entirely dependent on their version of reality as if it’s the gospel truth. They enjoy causing you to question yourself and your perception of reality. They want you to doubt yourself and what you know is true. And if they can get you to believe their distorted version, bullseye, they’ve got you. And this, my friends, is how the narcissist works to gaslight you. And if you want to learn more about gaslighting, you can read this article here.
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