5. Do you honestly believe your opinions cancel out the validity of others’ opinions?
There are so many different topics and subjects that arouse varying opinions. And it could be big stuff like politics and Religion. I mean, those are topics we can talk about all day long and have very different thoughts about it. But it can be some simple things like, what do you like to do for entertainment? Or where do you want to go on your vacation? They have an opinion about everything.
And rather than saying, well, here’s my opinion, what’s yours? It’s like no, I don’t want to know your opinion, and so in their mind, it’s like, there’s the only one that matters, and it’s me. They honestly do believe they’ve got such a high and lofty notion about how life is supposed to be. It’s like, well if you have something that’s different, it’s just probably irrelevant.
6. In what ways do you need to grow and change?
There are a lot of people that ask particularly when you get to know people, and if you really want to know if they’re sincere or not, ask them this question: In what ways do you need to grow and change? And the narcissist is thinking, well, you know, I could probably have a nicer house, or I could probably make more money or something like that, but it’s like grow! change! I don’t need to grow and change.
And again, they have to have such a tightly sculpted image that they have out there to suggest that they need to grow, and change implies that they’re not a complete person and it illustrates that they live with a hidden shame. To suggest that you need to grow means you don’t have it all together, and to them, it’s like, Oh, that’s the worst thing possible. They can’t answer that question.
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