7. Repeating and reframing questions.
The seventh way to spot a lying narcissist is by repeating and reframing questions. Now, I know that some of you have dealt with this before. If you have, let me know in the comments. So it goes a little something like this. “Hey, narcissist, where’d you go last night?” “Where did I go last night? You want to know where I went after work because you want to know every detail of my life.” Usually, this devolves into word salad.
8. Overreacting.
This is one that every single one of you is going to relate to, and that is overreacting. Now, overreacting can come in different forms. It can come in the form of playing the victim. It can also come in the form of extreme anger or stonewalling. And it usually starts with some form of “I can’t believe you just asked me that.” So you ask a question, and it’s a simple, straightforward question, and the narcissist just can’t believe that you would have the audacity to question them on this basic thing, like where they were or what they did with whatever money they took out of your joint account. And unfortunately, when this one works, it works because it goes hand in hand with gaslighting.
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When you ask about something that the narcissist is lying about, they’re going to use intimidation and shame to shut you down and not only to shut you down but to get you to question yourself, to get you to start thinking that you’re the problem, even though all you did was ask a question. Now, a narcissist will do this when they’ve exhausted all of their options, when they can’t figure out any other way to manipulate you. And they’ll also do it when they need a quick resolution. They need to shut you down fast. They can’t be bothered with all the in-between. They just need you to stop asking. And this is a surefire sign that they are guilty because this isn’t normal human adult behavior. We don’t just go around screaming at each other for asking questions. When you’re in it, it kind of starts to feel normal because it is normal for that person. And when you’re so wrapped up in it, you kind of forget that not everyone behaves this way.
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