Number 8: Stay calm and walk away.
If you’re dealing with a narcissist and they start to attack you, you should stay calm and walk away. Narcissists know exactly what buttons to push and use that knowledge to get what they want. They are also very good at triggering people’s emotions. You’ll only escalate and worsen the situation if you get angry or start yelling back.
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Narcissists don’t want to engage with someone calm and confident. They will want someone who will get upset and show some emotion. So if you stay calm, even when they’re yelling or insulting you, it will throw them off their game and make them wonder what’s happening. If you can figure out why they’re attacking you in the first place, it might help to remind yourself of that every time they start in on you.
Number 9: Remember that you are not the problem.
When a narcissist attacks, it’s important to remember that you are not the problem; you are the solution. When someone is attacking you, it’s easy to feel like you’re at fault. Narcissists have an inner ability to make everyone around them feel like they are in the wrong, so they can take advantage of them. They will use anything against you: your race, your gender identity, your religion, even your political affiliation.
Remember to stand your ground, calmly and firmly. Do not be aggressive or confrontational, but do not back down either. You are not required to take on the narcissist’s problems or make them happy; their happiness is not your responsibility. Suppose your goal is simply to stop your narcissistic attacker from attacking again. In that case, the best thing for you to do is walk away and act unresponsive as possible. Don’t engage with them or give them any more attention than necessary. Move forward with your life without them.
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