5. They start telling you that everyone else is a liar
So now, everyone close to you has become a liar. They make you really start to doubt the other people in your life that you’ve always been able to trust. So slowly, you start to question the motives of others, and this makes you again question your actual reality and perceptions more and more with the goal of you becoming completely dependent on the gaslighter for the truth.
So many times, when this happens, and we start to wake up to this, and we think no, no one would actually ever do something like this. Normal people would not try and make you doubt someone else lying to you. But you have to remember, you’re not dealing with a normal person, you’re dealing with a manipulative narcissist whose goal is to either take complete control of your life or ruin your life.
When victims of narcissistic abuse learn that they have been intentionally gaslighted over a long period of time, it’s an incredibly difficult pill to swallow. And many times, you will go back and forth between just anger, oh my god, I can’t believe that they would do something like this to me. I can’t believe that I’m just now figuring this out – oh my god, surely I have misunderstood. Surely that they didn’t really do, there’s something wrong with my interpretation, I’ve got to have this wrong. And many times, you’ll go back and forth with that.
So if you are just kind of becoming aware of this, please be extremely kind to yourself. Coming to the realization about gaslighting, and coming back into your own perceptions and reality is a process. It’s not an event, it takes time. So be very kind to yourself.
And if you’re really struggling with any of these issues, I encourage you to reach out to someone who has gone through this because that can honestly make all the difference in the world.
Read more: 11 Things to Expect When the Narcissist Knows You Have Figured Them Out
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