1. Threats.
The first one and the most common one I think that is used specifically in narcissistic abusive relationships is threats. The narcissist might say to their victim: “If I ever catch you with another man or woman, you won’t live to see another day”. Or they might say: “If you don’t do XYZ when you get home, I’ll make sure you never forget to do it again”. Or the narcissist might say: “If you ever do XYZ, I will ruin you, I will ruin your life, your reputation, and I will take the kids and leave you homeless and on the streets”.
These are all examples of what coercive control could look like.
2. Isolating you.
Another way that narcissists utilize coercive control is by isolating you from family and friends. They do not want you to have a support system, and so they will usually start isolating you from your loved ones pretty early on. This may come in the form of physically moving somewhere far away. It may come in the form of bad-mouthing your family and friends and making you lose faith in them, or it may come in the form of rage and anger anytime they come around, making you want to avoid them because you know when they’re around what’s in store for you when they leave.
But isolating you from friends and family is another excellent example of coercive control. By the way, this is also one of the tactics parental alienators use to brainwash a child against a targeted parent. They isolate the child and block any communication from the targeted parent and start actively forcing these lies and this rewritten history onto the child until the child has no other alternative than to accept the lie as truth.
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