Many of us have repeatedly come across such statements from loved ones: “Finish school, then you’ll do whatever you want,” “Finish school/college first, and then do all sorts of self-indulgence,” “Find a good job, and then think about your family ” etc. Of course, such attitudes from adults are easy to explain and at the same time are a good example of the delayed life syndrome – a condition that interferes with living in the present day, getting maximum pleasure and benefit from it (this applies to all life spheres without exception). As a result, we waste valuable time, miss opportunities, create false priorities.
What is delayed life syndrome?
For some already grown-up people, their whole life turns into an expectation of some event or phenomenon that will bring the necessary changes, happiness and finally allow them to do what they love, etc. One of the clearest signs of the delayed life syndrome is phrases like “Now my life does not suit me very much, but when I…, then everything will be just fine,“ Now I don’t feel happy, but when… ”. This “that’s when” can be anything: moving to another city or country, promotion, wedding, etc.
The delayed life syndrome, also known as the postponed life neurosis, gets its name because the person exposed to it lives in dreams of the future, rather than in the present. He seems to postpone his life for later and is in eternal anticipation of the event/day X. At the same time, consciousness seems to be fixed on the upcoming event, which is why we cannot spend time efficiently and simply “kill time”.
The delayed life neurosis can act as a defense mechanism of the psyche. It’s so nice and safe to be in familiar conditions – in your comfort zone. Outside of it, many problems and disappointments await us, but not victories and achievements. Also, a variety of factors can influence its development – from heredity and improper upbringing to self-doubt and emotional instability.
Signs of delayed life syndrome.
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