2. Where is it coming from?
The second thing to do is find out where this insecurity is coming from. If this insecurity maybe is the fear of having your partner cheat on you so you’re constantly trying to control them, or you’re nagging them, or you’re stalking them, or you’re basically accusing them, or getting on the defensive, then you have to ask yourself. Why do I feel this way? Is it actually their behavior or is it something that comes from my own fear and baggage?
Feeling insecure in a relationship basically come from either the circumstances that are going on, which involve both of you, one of you, or just yourself. Now, if your partner is doing things to consistently feed your insecurities like they’re putting you down, they’re mistreating you, acting secretive, maybe they’re just doing really out of character sort of things, then your anxiety around those issues are probably validated.
And it’s important to be able to start identifying again what those sort of reasons are or why you’re feeling like that and how you can actually start to address them.
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If your insecurities are purely coming from your own sort of, issues going on inside you because you haven’t dealt with maybe stuff that happened in your childhood, or past relationships, and you’re basically holding on to all this baggage and fear, then it’s important to be able to really look at it and get help about it.
One of the big reasons why I myself was able to go from 10 years of toxic dating and relationships to finally mean the man of my dreams, and getting engaged within nine months, is because I got help. I realized that I was the common denominator in my life. Wasn’t just the bad man that I was dating. It was the fact that I was making decisions that were self-sabotaging my chances of happiness, and those decisions were coming out of my insecurities and fears.
When I was finally able to address them, and actually get help and face them, even though they were quite confronting, I was then able to work on the solutions to conquer them and finally get my breakthrough.
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