5. Find the counteractive action solution.
Find the counteractive action solution, which is going to be a part of your solution. What I mean by this is a lot of the time we think, well, I’ve named what my fear is, or I named what my insecurity is, should not just be feeling better now, or shouldn’t I just kind of feel as I can get over it?
It’s not like that. If you had a consistent fear in your life or consistent experience that has built insecurity within you, you don’t get rid of it overnight. You can get a revelation about something, but then actually making sure that you do something about it and you do it consistently so your brain starts to rewire itself. That actually takes time. So what you want to do when you’re feeling insecure in a relationship is you want to do an action that is easy and simple that’s going to counteract that fear.
For example, if you’re someone that has really low self-esteem, and you have no confidence and so what you do is whenever your partner gives you a compliment, you actually tell him that you’re not beautiful and you put yourself down, which is self-sabotaging, you want to start building yourself up and you want to start a firm in yourself.
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Trust and transparency aren’t necessarily about feeling that you have to have access to everything that they have access to. But instead, it’s actually about affirming them that you trust them verbally, and then following through with actions and that like not picking up their phone and always checking it, or maybe focus in on the good stuff that they’re always doing with you and being present in that moment instead of having this fear or worrying about something in the future that hasn’t even happened.
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