Number 3: Narcissists Are Attracted To Someone With High Empathy.
Empathy is the ability to understand and feel the feelings of other people. An empathic individual would naturally appeal to them. While empathy is a positive quality to have, it is good to be mindful of whose wants and needs you’re tuned into. An empath who is used to placing others’ needs before her own is a natural match for a narcissist, who is accustomed to prioritizing his own. An empathic person will recognize the narcissist’s needs and meet them without asking whether or not they will be reciprocated. Empaths will also feed a narcissist’s ego by lowering themselves to make him feel substantial. While empaths see this as an ideal fit, the reality is that this is a relationship built in hell for them.
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Number 4: Narcissists Are Attracted To Someone Who Validates Their Feelings.
You can attract a narcissist once you start to validate their feelings. While validation is not the same as agreement, most narcissists will interpret it as such. If you validate a narcissist, they will most likely take what they desire and neglect everything else. As a result, your apparent agreement with them could be interpreted as a sign of weakness and an opportunity to exert greater control. Validation may simply fuel the toxic behavior and expose you to more abuse in situations like these.
Second, it can maintain a misguided feeling of belonging. You can give till you’re exhausted in a relationship with the narcissist and never receive recognition, appreciation, or support in return because narcissists are masters at making you believe everything is your fault. This form of uncontrolled giving is common in relationships.
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