Tip number five: Cutting all mutual ties.
And I mean all mutual ties. Again, easier said than done for sure. But if you want this destructive narcissist to leave you alone once and for all, for good and forever, maintaining friendships that are mutual, is probably not a good idea. Staying friends with their sister or their mother because you had such a great relationship and bond with them, is probably not a good idea. It’s akin to the newly recovering alcoholic deciding it’s a good idea to hang out in a bar. Not a good idea.
You really want to cut ties. And again, I get it. When you’re co-parenting with these people, it gets tricky. But oftentimes, we’re staying friends with, running in the same circles and going to the same places as these people, and forever exposing ourselves to them, wondering why we can’t get them to leave us alone, wondering why we can’t break free permanently. Love yourself enough to be willing to walk away completely and entirely.
Recommended: Will I Ever Be Free of You?: How to Navigate a High-Conflict Divorce from a Narcissist and Heal Your Family- by Dr. Karyl McBride Ph.D.
You know perfectly well, when we are talking about a destructive narcissist, and you are attempting to break free from them for real, they are smearing you. They are manipulating the perception of others. When a toxic person can no longer control you, they have to, by virtue of their own insecurities and all the other stuff that goes along with it, they have to attempt to manipulate and control the perception of others in relation to you.
So you know full well that that is what is going on. You can be in there, getting sucked right in, defending yourself, and dancing like a marionette to all of this. Or you can make a decision to take care of yourself, to love yourself, and extricate yourself from these circles entirely.
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