9. Learn to make yourself your number one priority
So many times, when we get out of long-term relationships with a narcissist, we have sacrificed so much that we don’t know how to treat ourselves or make ourselves a priority. So we have to teach this to ourselves, how do we do that.
Usually, we’re going to be the last person we gave any consideration to. So this is a time when you wake up and the first thing in the morning you ask yourself is how can I make myself happy today? What can I do for myself today that is loving and kind? How can I contribute to my healing at this moment?
Those are the questions that you need to be asking yourself, first and foremost, every single day during your healing and after. Never again should you not make yourself and your happiness one of your top priorities in life.
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10. Practice gratitude
Sometimes, when we get out of these relationships, we can be quite angry, hurt, and even bitter. And rightfully so, let’s face it, these relationships are abusive and they’re very traumatizing. And we certainly need to validate all that we have gone through, and that’s going to take time.
However, we don’t want to get stuck in the trauma of what happened. This was a mistake that I made, unfortunately. Trauma can cause ruminating thought patterns. And what happens when you think certain thoughts over and over, it establishes and reinforces pathways in your brain, making these thoughts become a habitual way of thinking.
And we certainly don’t want to think about the trauma or live in it any longer than we have to. So one of the easiest ways to make sure that that doesn’t happen is to practice gratitude. Whatever we focus on is what we will manifest in our lives. Whatever thoughts we have are what will multiply.
So practicing gratitude when the time is right in your healing journey is really important. It’s not always easy in the beginning. I can tell you I know I literally lost everything I owned and loved during the court battles and smear campaigns. But with practice, eventually, it will take root in your heart in mind.
It will eventually gain momentum and will produce more and more things in your life that you have to be grateful for, which is always the goal. So you have sacrificed enough of your time and energy on the narcissist. And making the mental shift onto gratitude again when the time is right, we’ll ensure that you don’t waste one more moment of your life on your abuser.
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