6. Boundaries.
Boundaries are another way to send them into panic mode, learning how to stand in your power as the sovereign being that you are, holding on to yourself, breathing, not giving your power away, and setting healthy limits and boundaries.
Few things will make a high-spectrum destructive narcissist or a medium-spectrum destructive narcissist or even someone on the lower end of the destructive narcissist rating scale, than having to deal with someone who has the capacity to say No, or No, thank you, and mean it, hold their ground, and follow-through. No is a full sentence- nothing more to say.
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Developing the capacity to set healthy limits and boundaries with the difficult people in our lives should be taught in elementary school, in my opinion. This is a skill set that few of us have learned, and an absolute necessity if we want to live a happy, healthy, functional life. We have to learn how to say no, and mean it, and not waver and not follow through.
And your ability to do so with someone who lands on the spectrum of destructive narcissism, first of all, if you’re questioning whether or not the individual is a destructive narcissist, set a boundary, set a limit, say no, you’ll find out very quickly who you’re dealing with. Why? Because you’ll send them right into panic mode.
Now, the tricky thing about this is avoiding inflicting unnecessary narcissistic injury, and thus, inciting narcissistic rage. You want them to understand that this is not a level playing field. You are no pushover and toying with you is gonna cost them one way or another.
Now, if you can communicate this effectively, great, but be sure you’re not in a fragile, wounded, vulnerable place while you’re attempting to do this. You wanna be sure you are strong enough to endure the backlash that will inevitably come your way.
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